What happens when plans change? Do you sigh with relief, feeling an expanse of unexpected time and space opening up before you? Do you feel yourself tensing, a creeping awareness that you’ve just lost your projected future? How do you return to the life that existed before your plans? How do you return to what was?
My goal for a long time has been to create a life that I am happy to return to. I’ve sought to nurture a settledness that launches me out, into adventures, into challenges, into plans. But recently I’ve seen how that settledness also welcomes me home when my plans change.
What does it feel like to be welcomed into your own Settled Life?
It feels like returning to your ‘flow’.
Returning to my life-before-plans feels as easy as breathing. I know how it works, how to balance its variables, how to spend my time, and I’m good at it. Returning to my Settledness is to live within my giftings, to notice my competencies, to notice my accomplishments. Here, I feel good at life.
It feels like self-care.
Not the paint-your-nails type of self-care, but rather the accepting your own needs/preferences/desires type of self-care. The self-care in which you care for your innermost self – affectionate and loving who you are. Returning to a Settled Life feels like returning somewhere so secure that earning worth is no longer necessary. Instead, in Settledness there is an acceptance of self that is full and complete and, oh, wonderful.
It feels like joy, hope and creativity.
If a Settled life offers security and self acceptance, then it becomes the springboard for joy and hope and creativity. Joy from the freedom to just enjoy one’s life, as it is, not as it was to have been. Hope for a life that will continue to be wonderful, hope because you hope in you… in your capacity for wholeness. Creativity because our energies are redirected from striving (for the life we should have had) towards utilizing the wonderful range of resources we offer our future (by living the life we have now). A Settled life sparkles with giggles of sheer delight.
It feels open.
Returning to my Settled Life has demonstrated a duality I didn’t expect. Rather than closing me off from plans (that should have been) it offers me a grounded sense of my own Self, that then nurtures an openess to present joy and future possibilities. I can be both grounded here, and open to there. I can experience now fully, and live expectant of what will come next.
Returning to a Settled Life is like coming Home, to my Self. And it’s marvellous.